People in stable, satisfying, mutually rewarding relationships are better able to overcome life’s natural challenges and transitions. In a world in which so much is not in our hands, knowing we can count on the love, affection, and support of a significant other becomes the foundation for success and resilience in every area of our lives.

Solve Problems, Deepen Closeness & Connection

The stress that comes from bickering, unresolved conflict, picking on each other, and suppressing upsetting feelings can take years from your life and life from your years.  PAIRS skills give you new opportunities to deepen closeness, understanding, resolve conflicts, and express painful emotions in ways that can bring you closer to those you love.

Bonding: We Need It Now More Than Ever

Bonding is a biologically-based need that's met through the combination of emotional openness and physical closeness with another person. People who regularly get their bonding needs met are happier and healthier. When bonding needs aren’t met — similar to the deprivation of any other biological need — there can be serious signs of deprivation: a constant state of unease, depression, illness, rigidity, constriction, isolation and more.

It doesn't have to be that way.

Emotions have no sense of time. We remember what we felt and feel.

Upsetting feelings have energy that weakens our immune system and can leave us increasingly susceptible to all kinds of diseases. Suppressing those feelings leaves little opportunity to feel love, pleasure, happiness, tenderness, desire or relief. 

PAIRS skills show you how to replace painful feelings with healing and joy.

When children consistently see parents lift each other up, affirm one another, naturally demonstrate gratitude, goodwill and affection, they feel safer. They're often much better able to focus and succeed in life.

Making your relationship an example your children will aspire to for their lives will make a difference for the rest of their lives.

Without that, they are likely to face continuous struggles in their own future adult relationships as they try to create a model they never knew.

Life is Meant to be Happy, PAIRS Skills Can Help

Happiness is the essence of PAIRS.

For nearly a half century, PAIRS skills have helped couples go far beyond surviving to actually thriving.

Imagine being able to recapture the dreams you once had for your relationship, and then expand them to include new dimensions of emotional, intellectual, sensual and sexual connection, shared values, interests, and the opportunity to regularly celebrate what you've created together.

PAIRS helps make that possible.